You’re much better off asking out single people than married people.

Although you may think he or she is the only one for you, and you simply HAVE TO HAVE THEM… there are always more options than you realize when you’re focused on “THE ONE!”The saying about there being more fish in the sea applies to that perfect phone number too.

I can’t tell you how many times someone comes to me determined to track down a number that’s NOT available, determined to make that unavailable number theirs. They’ll completely ignore hundreds of good numbers that are available to pursue and focus on the one that isn’t available. I try to explain that it’s like asking out a married person. They never understand how much harder it is to make that unavailable number available. They are blindly optimistically assuming that because the person doesn’t answer the phone from their area at the moment or they’re not using it for a large business, that it must be worth more to them than the people who aren’t using it much, and therefore must be negotiable.

Unfortunately that almost never goes the way they hope it will, because the truth is that it’s much harder to do the equivalent of getting someone to leave the one they’re with to be with you. That’s why I say, “You’re always better asking out single (available) people than married people. ”I understand wanting to pursue that exciting number but when it says IN USE, that means NOT AVAILABLE.It doesn’t mean try harder.

That then leads to the next point in this conversation, “Don’t let not being able to get the perfect number stop you from getting a good number.”